If you’ve climbed all the right rungs in your career and still aren’t happy, it may be because your ladder has been leaning against the wrong wall.
Many high achievers discover the path to success at a young age. Then after years spent getting the right degrees, making the right connections, and earning good money, discover life isn’t turning out as planned.
And they’re not happy.
For many, it takes reaching this point before anything can change. Yet, once a person realizes wealth is about more than just money and getting ahead, a new life begins.
To be truly wealthy and create an enlightened career path, you have to take a step back. It also helps to consider who you are, what makes you happy, and how you can help others along your journey.
Want to get there, too? Follow along on this six step journey to mindful wealth and the career you were meant to build.
Step One: Shifting Success Away from Cultural Expectations
For many high achievers, it’s common to get caught up in a career cycle where business success means more than anything. The more hours you devote to work, the thinking goes, the greater your success will be.
This line of thinking may have served you well up until now. Putting in the time likely paved the way for the external successes you now enjoy.
The career you’ve built, where you went to school, your home, even your choice of personal style: these are all measures of success, and, if you’re like many of my clients, you’ve spent countless hours constructing the dream.
Unfortunately, this line of thinking can only take you so far. Measuring self-worth using external measures of success is a losing proposition. The target is always changing, and, because someone else is in charge of the game, it’s impossible to know the input required to hit a bull’s eye.
Inevitably, many high achievers get caught up in a cycle where they work more hours, trying harder and harder to hit that uncontrollable, moving target. The end result is often business burnout, a hit to one’s self-esteem and, often as a consequence, personal relationships start to suffer.
The good news is that self-acceptance doesn’t have to be dependent upon cultural standards. You get to choose what you consider a worthy endeavor. You get to choose how you spend your time. You get to choose how to prioritize your work.
Step Two: The Pursuit of Wisdom
As you begin to reconsider your life priorities, you may also start to question the choices you’ve made up to this point. Are you really headed down the right path? Is your self value tied to your accomplishments? Is this really all there is?
In fact, as you begin to look around, you may start to notice that others seem to reach meteoric levels of success without working so hard. What is responsible for that success, you may wonder? Perhaps your college credentials or the countless hours spent in the office aren’t getting you where you want to go.
When clients ask these types of questions, they’re usually on the threshold of an exciting phase of life where inner learning becomes a focal point. Growth takes root best when it’s slowly nurtured and so it’s no surprise that this step in the journey can last many years.
When you question your tendencies and behaviors, you start to create alignment between your values and your life path. As your journey becomes more connected to your inner purpose, you begin to gain a greater appreciation of yourself.
This is when many successful careerists start to notice that they haven’t always been kind to themselves. In fact, when driven toward success, it’s easy to treat oneself downright poorly. Have you ever beaten yourself up for missing a sales goal or losing a prominent client? Want to stop but don’t know how? It’s not uncommon during this step to recognize that suffering doesn’t have to be part of life’s equation. Even so, many don’t yet know how to take the leap toward greater self-love and appreciation.
Step Three: The Pull of Purpose
As you become more aligned with your values, you may also start to notice the ways in which your career is not. During this step, you’ll likely start to question many of the assumptions you’d previously taken for granted. There is something deeper going on, you’ll recognize, and the source is within you.
This is when many on this journey become more fond of themselves. As you get to know yourself better and appreciate your inner strengths, you naturally become kinder to yourself.
It’s not surprising that, as we become more aligned with our inner goals, our desire to work for others also starts to wane. You may want to spend your time doing something that you’re more passionate about and feel the urge to have the freedom to control your own destiny.
Cultural rewards like money take on a new dimension as you connect the amount of money you have (or lack thereof) with your feelings of freedom. And, if money is lacking, you’ll likely feel its effects as you try to pursue greater opportunities for self-discovery. Which means you are going to want to get limiting behaviors like debt and living beyond your means under control.
Step Four: Connecting With Others
As you learn to love yourself more deeply, you also start to realize you’re a part of something much larger and deeper than just yourself.
Our shared existence is larger than any one person, and each of us is just one part of the whole. As this new awareness blossoms, so will your love of those around you. You’ll start to open yourself to others in new and amazing ways. You’ll realize you’ve seen glimpses of this oneness for many years, only you didn’t know how to embrace it until now.
This can be a confusing time, marked by wild swings when at first, everything appears to make sense, and then, later, when nothing does. This is when many take a leap into self-employment or take a sabbatical from work to further explore self-understanding.
This is often when you find yourself drawn toward work that stimulates your acceptance and support of others. It is also a time when you are stepping into being the creator of the life you wish to be living. Rather than defining you like they did in the past, rewards like money are now seen as merely a tool.
Step Five: Transcending the Work Experience
As you enter into the flow of nature and the universe, you’ll begin to shift away from a need to work in exchange for reward. You’ll focus instead on the value you bring to others.
What surprisingly happens during this phase is that the more you let go of your desire for rewards like money, the more the money comes flowing in. Because you are not grasping onto it anymore, it does not define you — nor does it make you feel complete.
If you haven’t already taken the plunge, by now you are seeking holistic work experiences that are in flow with your natural strengths.
As your feelings of separation diminish, your depth of love intensifies, which causes relationships to either deepen or fall away. It is at this stage when you are learning what it means to surrender.
This is also when you feel a deepening of your relationship with yourself. No longer do you wish to beat yourself up about mistakes or wrongdoings. And if you do fall back into negative self-talk, you have the strength to stop yourself before causing more pain.
If you do not know how to do this, then you find yourself drawn to those who can help you. This is when people usually come to see me, as they can feel how far I’ve come on my own journey to discovering self-compassion.
Step Six: Abundance + Love
When you reach this step, you’ve transcended the idea of traditional ‘work.’ Your level of awakening means you have let go of your past, your limiting habits, and your expectations.
You no longer see yourself as distinct from the rest of the universe. Your love for yourself and for everyone around you is the same, without separation. You live in a state of continuous flow and abundance.
Your path will naturally expand and students who wish to learn what you have experienced will begin to show up. You’ll have a strong desire to share what you know, regardless of what you receive in return.
Ready to move that ladder and start climbing toward the life you were meant to live? It can be as easy as following this six-step progression. There is more to life. Get ready to find it.
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