I want to confess something I’ve been ashamed about for much of my life. The confession is that I am someone who makes mistakes all the time — big ones, little ones… so many I could probably write a book about all the things not to do. It has taken me a long time to admit it. That’s because I told myself that I was a…
If you’re like most of us, you’re your own worst critic. You talk to yourself in ways you’d never talk to your loved ones. You tell your daughter how smart she is, your husband how talented he is, your best friend how strong she is. Inside, though, you may beat yourself up with constant admonitions of how you failed your diet, didn’t read that book, or haven’t saved enough money.
Ready to live bigger? With more prosperity? I sure am. Yet the road to living a bigger life is likely to be a bumpy ride. We step out and it often doesn’t go as planned. I was reminded about it just this past weekend.
This sort of question governs me so much it has become part of my daily meditation practice. Not because I want lots of stuff but because this question keeps me on track to creating the life I want to be living. It helps to ensure my actions are in alignment with what’s most important.
We want to earn enough to support a happy family, as capital to launch a new business, or to pursue a passion project. What often happens, though, is that along the way, we become charmed by our accumulating assets and forget about our original ambition. We spend late nights at the office, put off the new business launch, or forget about our passions.
It’s hard to believe only a few years ago I’d never worked with a coach nor did I ‘get’ what they did for their clients…
From my vantage point, it wasn’t necessary because I’d always been good at figuring things out on my own. Plus it seemed expensive and when you are starting a new business money is tight.
To achieve excellence in one area is a great feat. Even more significant, though, is that the work teaches us how to develop excellence. And that’s a skill that can be transferred to all areas of life.
It all started when I noticed someone trying to seduce others with an underlying need for validation. When I paid greater attention to what was happening I began to feel the pain that erupts in our own and others lives when we operate from this state. It also revealed my desire to “make it go away,” which means it was showing me my own resistance.
If you believe that anything is possible, you create an internal narrative that supports that idea. Belief invites you to ‘be on the lookout’ so you can gather evidence to support your theory. Once confirmed you begin to weave the belief into the pattern, fabric and garment of your life.
Each of us have an internal drive to do things that are meaningful, to create financial independence and wealth, to enjoy more love and intimacy and ultimately to have an influence on the world. And it is 100% up to you to bring these things into reality.