Hello from Pismo Beach, CA!
We’re visiting my daughter Zoe who will be entering her junior year of studying animal science at Cal Poly San Luis Obispo.
It’s been a wonderful trip as you can see from the photos below…
We’ve been walking on the beach looking for heart shaped rocks and I’ll admit I am a bit obsessed.
Looking for hearts brought my attention to the fact that the sea cannot help but smooth out all the features of the rocks — turning everything gradually into round circles.
While there is nothing wrong with circles, I couldn’t help but think about how unique features are what make the rocks interesting.
The same goes for people.
It’s our unique traits, funky quirks and unusual ways of being that make us way more interesting.
Yet we live in an experience that is kind of like the sea. If we are not careful it can feel like it is constantly chipping away at our unique qualities — to the point where we may feel worn down by how much adjusting and accommodating we do.
This realization dovetailed into a group coaching session I hosted this week about influencers.
An influencer is someone who has developed the ability to affect the behavior of others and I was comparing this to our roles as coaches, practitioners and healers. My goal was to explore how we go from being practitioners in our area of speciality to becoming influencers.
Part of becoming an influencer includes embracing our unique qualities and then openly sharing them with the world. It is these traits however that we’re sensitive about sharing — especially because these “quirks” may have caused us to feel like an outcast or misfit in the past.
When I think about influencers like Seth Godin, Gary Vaynerchuk, and Danielle Laporte, I can’t help but think that by revealing their differences they’ve won a place in many of our hearts.
Gary Vee is known for being a straight talker who swears a lot. I wasn’t impressed until I saw him speak in person and in that moment I totally got what people loved about him.
He was so brazen, honest and real I couldn’t help but be attracted to what he was doing in the world. He simply didn’t hold back and you could feel transformation happening for all 2,000 of us in the room as a result.
By being completely himself Gary Vee was inviting all of us to do the same. His actions were inviting us to become more like our true selves and less like we’ve been shaped to be.
Same thing goes for Brene Brown when she decided to take a risk and teach us about the benefits of understanding our own shame — something she had been hiding up until her research results were so mind-blowing she simply had to share.
My sense is that we’ve all been holding back in different ways.
Whenever I get up the nerve to reveal something new about myself publicly I am rewarded by the realization that I am not alone and that my sharing is helpful to others. This keeps me moving forward in expressing my “gifts” even when I struggle with my fears.
All said I think the world needs more of us living so comfortably in our own skin that we don’t hold back in revealing our gifts — perhaps it is in that moment that we become a true influencer.
Isn’t that what we all want?
Are you interested in becoming an influencer in your area of speciality?
Are there any places where you’ve been holding back from revealing your gifts?
I’d love to hear what you think…